Posted August 8, 2016 by Keionda Lei Lewis in #LifeyThings, Discussion / 32 Comments

Sooooo, you guys, as you know I’ve been a little bit (A FRIGGIN’ LOT) M.I.A. But I have good reasons for pretending I don’t know you guys NO MO.

   1. GRE

2. Masters application




I’ve been going back and forth in my head (and sometimes out loud, which would explain all of the weird looks tossed my way from passerbyers) I thought about changing up my blog a little bit, although the main reason I started this blog was because of BOOKS and I wanted BOOK FRANZ, (you guys started are totally awesome sauce, btw) and don’t get me wrong, I STILL want to concentrate on books, but I just wanted to change it up just a little and start talking about other things as well, hence the caption of this post is #LIFE, because…well, I’m talking about my life and all that.

But anyway, since I know all of you awesome peeps are super busy visiting other blogs and with your own lifey things, I won’t keep you guys all that long. I have just been stressing WAYYY too much lately and I noticed that in the end, none of it mattered. So, it all made me realize something: It amazed me how much time a day we spend mostly worrying about things…..



Worrying about “things” constantly all day really wears on  you. Just think about it. At the end of the day, where did all that stressing and worrying get you?  I’m going to take a wild guess and say NADA. Sure, you may not have gotten the new purse or book you wanted (or cookie cake or Chinese food, like I’ve been wanting for the longest time)but at the end of the day I think it’s safe to bet you were still okay.


I can’t tell you how many times in my life (even now) that I’ve not been happy with my body. Whether it be my flabby arms, my brows that won’t grow all the way, my boobs that are humungous and don’t match my body–>#seriouslyconsideringareduction


Yeeeessssss, so why all they stressing, dawg? Don’t worry whether or not you have the perfect boobs or if you have…. a thigh gap. (Like seriously, I don’t see what the heck the appeal is about or why everyone is obsessing over it but alas) It’s a body part. It doesn’t matter. At the end of the day it doesn’t matter because God made us all the way we are supposed to be.


Pfft, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stressed about this. I’m stressing about it right now as we speak. Or..er… Virtually speak. Since I have basically no job, and all of the money I do make is spent on bills and crap, I can attest to the fact that I stress waaayyyy too much about money. It’s just that in life we have a lot of wants and we base our happiness off of those wants. If we don’t get what we want exactly, it makes us have all kind of sads and stuff.
And that’s just not fun.


I say: What the FRICK FRACK PADDY WHACK does it matter? If you’re not skinny enough, if you don’t have enough money OR if you don’t FIT IN?? Why fit in when you were destined to be yourself in the first place? And that arm flab? Thigh gap? No thigh gap? WHO THE FRICK CARES, YO?? God made us all in His image, if He wanted you to be rich with a thigh gap and perfect skin, believe meh you would be.

                                               *RANT  OFFICIALLY TERMINATED. 

I would like to go back and say that if you do become rich, please, please, do not forget about me. I IS YO FRAN. THANK YOU.

But, in all seriousness, if you do become rich, like, yo, I’m still jobless hobo-ing it over here so, ya know…. *coughs*

Now it's your turn 2

What are some things in life that make you stress the heck out? What do you do to cope with it? Oh! And, which one: Candy Corn or Jelly Beans??

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32 responses to “#LIFE: JUST….BREATHE, DAWG.

  1. Ohhh Keionda I am totally hearing you when it comes to stress. It’s funny because we can be so stressed during one life stage but later on it’s like you barely remember it. Try and relax and enjoy, otherwise life will pass you by!

    • Yes! That’s what I’m going to try to do from now on! I am no longer going to worry about things that don’t need to be worry about and just focus on being happier! 🙂

  2. I think everyone stresses about money. It doesn’t matter how much you have, it is never enough. I’m trying to work on that. Trying to be happier with the amount that I have. I’m working on paying off my credit cards and then keeping them paid off each month. I completely get you about boob size. I’ve gone back and forth about a reduction for years. I’m almost 40, so that will probably not happen at this point in my life. I’ve lived with them this long, I will probably just keep them.

    Melanie @ Hot Listens & Rabid Reads

  3. Mostly health issues. As I grow older, I sense the age is showing. I feel so many aches that I’ve never felt before. I had a breast reduction about four years ago. I don’t know if it helped. Perhaps it’s the fact that I’ve gained all the weight that I’ve lost after my last child. Sigh. Keep your head up, Kei!

  4. You have some wise insights and you are right, all stress does it cause health issues and make things worse. You have to through your faith out there and trust that everything will work out the way it is suppose to sometimes. 😉

    • Thank you Ali! It’s always good to just take a breath and just not worry about things all the time! AND YES! We have to thin about our health and everything! <3

  5. I AM ALWAYS STRESSED. It’s unfortunate. I do all the things I’m supposed to do. Exercise, meditate, chill with animals. But I’m a constantly worried individual. So I get you!
    I hope you find a job soon! And good luck with your GRE and your master’s application 🙂

    • Thank you, and THANK YOU GIRL! <3 I’m trying not to stress and BOOKS and my DOG really help to alleviate some of the stress! But at the end of the day we’re so alike because I’m always stressing too! 🙁 *le sighs*

  6. Sophia Rose

    Finances and deadlines. 😉 But I’ve learned to take a step back, breathe, go for a walk, and plan ahead. Do what I can and don’t sweat the rest, ie.

  7. Same here! Work is slow at the moment, so money is an issue. I often hear we should focus on the present, not the future. It’s trial and error. Hang in there, Keionda! Learn to pick yourself up and appreciate the small wins 🙂 I’m rooting for you!

  8. Everything in life stresses me out. LOL! Okay, I’d say just the uncontrollable aspects that seem to pop up all the time in my life. Of the two, I’d choose candy corn, but you should have totally put gummy bears up there. I don’t eat a lot of candy, but I can devour me some gummy bears.

    • I know you’ve been stressing with lifey things too girl! Just look up and pray and it’ll all turn out okay in time! 🙂 keep your head up boo boo! <3 Oh and YASSS CANDY CORRRRRRNNN! 🙂 I like sour gummy worms, YOU CAN HAVE ALL THE GUMMY BEARS BECAUE.. .JUST, NO. teehee!

  9. Well said, my friend! I guess it’s impossible to avoid *all* stress and *never* stress about anything but as I often tell me sister (who is a major worrier/stresser-outer) it never solves anything and only makes you feel worse. I just realized that one (of the many) things I love about you is that you have such a good head on your shoulders. You’re able to stop and see the big picture. Love that about you! So, yeah, there’s always “stuff” (I get overwhelmed at work sometimes, I have my own body issues, blah blah blah) but really… there’s so much more to feel good about and be happy about. And I’m a firm believer on focusing on the good stuff. #Positivity for the win! 🙂

    • Awww thank you T! It’s been such an EPIC PLEASURE to have met you through blogging! You’re always so positive and uplifting! <3 MUAHHH! You deserve ALL DA HUGS! 🙂 There’s always going to be things that stress us out and cause us to be down but we can’t let that get to us and we always have to keep our head up because the bad times will soon pass! 🙂 LOVE YA GUHHHH! XOXOXOXO!

  10. I’ve been MIA and also very stressed out lately – is it something in the air? Things that stress me out: my kids (who knew parenthood was so stressful?) and also worrying that suddenly everyone has lost their minds and the world is coming to and end and we’ll all be living in one of those scary post-apocalyptic books that I’m not really fond of.

    Hope things are looking up for you soon!
    Jen @ YA Romantics

    • It’s okay girl! I can understand being MIA since I’m like behind on everything at the moment! Just take it day by day! And yes, it does us no good by stressing over things that are happening because we’re only going to make ourselves miserable in the end. 🙁 Take some time and relax, spend time with your family, and just pray. That’s the only thing you can do, Jen!:) xoxo!

  11. Oh this is a great reminder post to not stress – I like to follow the ideas of stoicism and it’s basic idea is that there are two things – things you can control, and things you can not. And the only things you can control are your thoughts and your actions, so you should just worry about those. I try not to stress as much now, but it does creep in. The blog unfortunately is one, because I want to do better with it and am still struggling to find the balance! (I will find it though!!)

    Also candy corn for me – I think because it’s just a seasonal thing, so I get more attached to it since I can only have it at certain times. 😀

    • THIS IS SUCH A GREAT POINT Char! And I love it there ideas of Stoicism. I’m going to have to look this up because I’ve never heard of it but I would sure like to put it to practice into my life! Thanks for this guh! And don’t worry about your blog! You’ll get everything under control soon and you’ll be back at it at no time! NO STRESSING! <3

  12. I love reading non book related posts. As much as I love books, I want to read about other things too, personal things or silly things like your favorite tv shows.

    Anyway, I stress over the job thing right now. My company relocated to the east coast 3 years ago and I decided to be a stay at home mom. While I like it, I don’t like the feeling of being stuck home all day and not talking to anyone over 9 years old until 6pm. I want to get a job but then I’d have no one to take care of my kids or pick them up from school so I feel like I’m…stuck with no options.

    But, like you said, at the end of the day everything is good. The bills are paid and even if life is a little crazy, it’s great!

    • Gosh Nereyda! That has to be so hard on you! But thin of it like this, at least you have your family, you’re healthy and you’re able to spend this time with your foamily because when they’re gone and grown, you’re going to look back on this time and wish you had more of it. 🙂 Just realizing how truly blessed you are right now is all that matters. Everything else will just fall into place where it belongs! 🙂 Keep your head up girlie! <3

  13. Real life … adulting … all overrated. Just stay here with us. 😛 No, seriously though, stress sucks. No matter who you are, how rich, how thin … someone has something to stress about. Just have to learn how to deal with it in a healthy manner. Wine is healthy, right? 😀

  14. Lauren Becker

    JELLY BEANS! Sorry about all the stress, but I think we all understand. It’s hard not to worry about SOMETHING in your life. Right now I am trying to find a job that I will enjoy, and that’s very stressful. I’m so tired of interviews that don’t work out. Sigh. I just hope these next couple happening this week go well.


  15. *HUG* Oh, the money thing will always be a problem. As long as you stay ahead of it, it’s all good. And it will get easier once you’re out of school with a job. Hang in there. Being broke isn’t so bad, helps you appreciate the park, the library, riding a bike, finding ways to do things for free. That was my life until I got married at 35 😉

    We all worry. Some worry more than others. Just don’t let it be a cloud over your head all the time. Smile some, enjoy the world around you and the little pleasures in life. That saying about stopping and smelling roses is there for a reason. What I’m trying to say is, if the worrying is becoming too much, you might want to talk to someone, your doctor maybe. It could be anxiety??? I’m not saying run and go get drugs, but half the cure is knowing you could have an issue and how to cope, no meds needed 🙂 I have depression and didn’t know it until I was 39. Apparently it’s genetic and everyone in my family has some form. Nice that didn’t tell me 🙁 grrrrrrr.

    Hang in there!!! Books are our friends for sure!!!!!

  16. Aw girl I’m here with you!! <3 I'll be cheering you on from the sidelines 😀 You can do it!

    I totally get your problem with boobs though – OMG. People say I have large breasts for an Asian and my mom even told me "I'm not paying if you decide to get breast reduction" :') BUT WE CAN GET THROUGH IT. *fist pump*

  17. RO

    I know I can’t convenience you, but eve4r since I first found your blog AND Facebook AND Twitter, I noticed you were this beautiful woman AND soul and didn’t know why you wanted to lose weight. I still feel the same way. Hopefully you’ll realize your beauty AND intelligence before the year ends. (lol) Like you, the money thing is a struggle, and one I pray about daily. I know God will answer at the right time, but it’s awful rough to wait while He does it, right? I can only say to hang in there and know you’ll be in the right place soon. HUGE Hugs…RO