How Blogging Has Changed Me Thus Far.

Posted December 7, 2015 by Keionda Lei Lewis in Discussion / 20 Comments

I can’t even count on my five ten fingers and ten toes how many amazing, awesome sauce people I’ve met during this blogging journey. I shan’t name them now but if we’ve been chatting for a but on blogs and in social media just know that you guys, each and every one of you, have touched me in a very special way. I’ve only been doing this blogging thing for about five or six months and it’s been a journey so far!


As the crazy part about it is that we don’t have to talk everyday to still be friends. We have our lives and it gets super hectic and busy but you never forget your blogging buddies.  I heart you all.


Blogging is now a part of my life as all of YOU GUYS reading this now. 

I think the blog is made by the author BUT it’s made by the people that form the community AROUND IT: The interaction, the love, the commenting, the networking, ALL make or break a blog.                                                                     

                       Some things I’ve learned:

I even read a boxed book set on my Kindle. (This is news because I never knew you could do that and truthfully wasn’t even aware of a WHAT THE HECK a boxed set even WAS.)

♥I now know what an ARC is all about (and what the acronym stands for) and how to actually get one. (Shocker) Although I have to say I kind of went overboard because I requested sooooo many at once and now I have a heaping pile of them.


   I shall now tell you of my nightmare with ordering a wee bit too many ARCS….

I have at least 15 I STILL haven’t read yet and it’s been a little over FIVE months or so? I’m sure my grade(or whatever the equivalent to “progress” Net Galley uses to critique the review process) is so low. No one is going to want me to review their books. ‘Tis a travesty.

     And….I am certain they despise me. DESSSPIIZZZEEE MEH.


♥The blogoshpere is such a friendly place and at first I was terrified of finally hitting publish on my first post, making my blog go live for the first time. I’m naturally an introvert but an extrovert  sometimes, if that makes any sense?? I literary waited a month before pushing that publish button.

                                                  YUP. A. WHOLE. FREAKING. MONTH.


                                                   Believe me. Keionda was not amused.

During that time I told myself that I was doing it because I wanted to make sure everything looked okay and things were organized. But REALLY I was just procrastinating which I discovered I’m really, really good at. And it took me an additional month to start commenting on other blogs. This was due to fear and the fact that I had no idea how to start nor where.

So, I would like to take the time now to say thank you for being so nice and welcoming for this community. I still have a lot to learn but I’m taking things each day at a time and telling myself that a small amount each day will amount to something HUGE in the end. I like I belong somewhere even if we’re only just talking about books, hawt book boyfriends, and rants.



With blogging I’ve been seeing myself changing, reaching out to people and being… well, MYSELF. I don’t have to pretend to be anyone else because I’m becoming more and more comfortable in my own skin. In high school, I wasn’t the “popular girl,” [Whatever this means anyway because I don’t believe we should be ranked according to social statuses and what not.] But in college that was where I really branched out and found myself. Joined some organizations and become one of the leaders of the university.


And now, I’m jobless hobo and in desperate need of one. Sigh. Life is cruel. C.R.U.E.L.



                              Over to you:

How has blogging changed you? Have you been changed for the better? Do you feel this community is super open and welcoming TOO?




20 responses to “How Blogging Has Changed Me Thus Far.

  1. Le sigh. I’m only at 63% rating on NG. But I’ve been very good for the last few months. I make sure I’m reviewing as soon as I’m done. Lucky for you, NG has changed as well. Before, once the book is archived, you can’t even submit a review. Nowadays, as long as the publisher hasn’t pulled the review off the NG shelves, you are still able to submit a review, thus keeping your percentile at a decent number.

    Anyway, blogging is like reading for me. I can’t live without it now.

  2. Ro

    You hit pay dirt with this one Kute Keionda! I couldn’t even figure out HOW to publish a post when I first got started, and I still have a long way to go. Thanks to you and other blogger friends I’ve learned so, so much, that it has been amazing! It’s great to feel the camaraderie with similar subjects like reading, but all the other stuff that goes with it like recipes, etc. Every blogger has his or her own style that has made my day, and I love it. Hugs and Happy Monday! RO

  3. Great post! I love you too Keionda! I think we can all say that this community has created friendships to last a lifetime. I’m like you, in some ways. I wasn’t the popular girl in high school, or any school to be precise. I even changed to become one of the “cool” kids, and it didn’t work. Yeah, my aunt tore me a new one. Stop pretending that you don’t listen to country and rock music, she said. Stop acting like you aren’t a book worm, she said. I have 2 best friends (since preschool) who know me really well, and they are still my babes even though we only talk once a month or whatever. They ventured out to have families, whilst I don’t believe in marriage. My boyfriend (ex-fiance) has proposed twice, and I just can’t see myself married. To anyone. Not even Daemon Black! We’ve been together for 13 years. I keep telling him that a piece of paper doesn’t define what we have, but whatever. Sorry for rambling.

    Back to this blogging thing. Yes, there are great things that go on around the blogosphere, but there is a cattiness that I didn’t think would be here as well. I just did not see that coming. I have been reading since I was 6 or so, and have read more books than I can count. I don’t care about stats and all that, though it does help to have regular community members. I comment on over 50 blogs that I follow everyday. Whether they comment back is up to them. I don’t do it for that, I do it because their post rocks. I love talking about book BFs and all that. There are some that I go to out of habit, and some that pop up in my bloglovin email, but still, I go. Blogging is good. I’ve started to talk about what’s going on in my life. Well, not everything. I’m hesitant to share the biggest thing about myself, because that is scary. No! I’m not a murderer Keionda! I see you looking shocked. But, no, some things I just can’t talk about right now. But blogging has been good for me, whether you and everyone who comes to my blog knows it or not. My blog keeps me grounded, and for that, I will keep on doing it.

  4. I think at one point in time (many of us, *ahem, me*) have gone over board on ARCs at some point in our blogging lives. I wish I could say that part of it gets better but I may or may not regularly over do it LOL!

    So glad I have meet you and have gotten to know you through your blog!!

  5. I’m a hardcore introvert and I can fake being an extrovert so I totally know what you’re saying! XD

    I’ve got 6 ARCs staring at me. I’ll get to them..eventually. HAHA.

  6. Sophia Rose

    I like how you are stepping back to see how much you have grown with your blog and the blogging community. I sometimes come across little things that remind me how far I’ve come in three years of reviewing, posting, and visiting, too. I can’t even remember the first time I discovered a blog and had to figure out how to comment. I had a Facebook account and that was it. I barely knew the do’s, dont’s and all in between on FB let alone blogs.

    I love how it has made me come out of my shell, too. I’m quiet in RL though I’ve gotten over the shyness since going away to college and moving across country from friends and family several years ago. I do like the camaraderie here on-line with several I wouldn’t have otherwise know.

    And LOL! Net Galley is the great temptress for me. I think I will forever grab too many and struggle to get them read. My percentage is pretty good, but I still have a huginormous pile to read.

    Looking forward to seeing your continued growth and enjoying friendship on-line.

  7. Oh good grief, jobless hobo? Kei, that made me almost fall off my chair then. I love how open you are and never sugar coat your words. I adore you! You never fail to entertain me and make me laugh and I can’t believe you’ve only been blogging such a sort time too, you’re old hat at this gig now. Such a lovely post Kei, but I can’t stop laughing at ‘just know that you guys, each and every one of you, have touched me in a very special way’.

    I’m snorting most unattractively now. Yeah, things that sound unintentionally dirty make me laugh like a 5 year old.

  8. Hey girl, You’re such a shiny happy person. I’m so glad we connected. I love hearing from you on my blog and Twitter – always lovely and encouraging. God bless and I wish you great success above and beyond your dreams. 🙂

  9. Thank you for sharing how blogging has changed your life, Keionda! For me, it has made me braver. I used to be deadly afraid of receiving negative feedback from people. So much that I’d often lose sleep over it. The thing about blogging is, more people are constantly scrutinizing my work. I’ve had my fair share of criticism. Oddly enough, they’re never about my writing. Most of these reviews are about my take on feminism! (There are a lot of misogynistic jerks lurking in the internet. smh.) Nowadays, whenever I see a negative review, I shrugged it off. Actually, no. I get angry for a bit then I move on. 🙂

  10. Blogging has changed me like crazy, and I know I am a better person for it. It has helped me further develop my writing skills when it comes to reviewing and so on, and as well as promotion ones (I want to go into the publishing world and the social media promotion, so blogging has been big for that and for building up my reputation that might be helpful when/if I ever become a published author. And well, it has made me think a lot more about what I am reading.

    BUT it has also made me meet some of the most wonderful and epic people who I wouldn’t have met otherwise. I have new close friends who I have been talking to for a year or only months. I have blogs I read regularly and love. I like the share from other people and from myself. I have hardened myself against criticism which can be fair and not so fair (those trolls!) and I have also managed to learn more about coding and all that. I love blogging and what it has done to make me me <3

  11. only 6 months 😛 oh my you are still green around the ears, but thats awesome and dont worry too much about the ARCs we have all done that hah. Its great to gave you in the blogging community, your humor 🙂 always worth it

  12. Well blogging has helped me because it really gave me something to focus on that is just for me – not my kids or husband, just for me. Also I have read such a variety of books and that has been fun. Oh I screwed up at the beginning and went nuts with ARCs. Honestly I kind of did it again recently because there were just so many I really wanted. Ooops!!! Love this post!!

  13. I totally agree that a blog is as much the community around it as the author. Blogging changed me as well and has become an important part of my life, just like all the awesome people I met through blogging! And requesting a lot of arc’s or review copies is part of becoming a blogger, I think erveyone has done that once.

    To be honest I still go overboard now and then with review copies (and I have been blogging for about 3 years now). I have way too many review copies. At the moment I have about uhm 82 review copies I haven’t read yet, yeah that’s bad, really bad. *cringe* But I just can’t say no when a book sounds good and I have to look through the list and remove those I probably won’t read anymore, but it’s so hard to make that decision. It’s my goal for next year to make a dent in that review copies pile and get it down to at least 55 one way or another.

    My netgalley percentage is about 68% at the moment, which is pretty decent, although I still want to get it higher. I think it’s measured by the amount of books you have received and how many of those you have read and reviewed.

    I am mostly an introvert, but I love talking as well. And I feel that on my blog I can be myself and that’s such a wonderfull feeling. And it’s nice to have that feeling of belonging somewhere. Great post and I am really happy I met you 🙂

  14. Oh this post reminds me so much of my starting out with blogging! It’s funny to remember how nerve-wracking publishing your first post can be. And all the posts after when your just starting and you don’t know if anyone will stop by. I’m so happy to have gotten to know you and count you as a friend Keionda!

    I remember being so keen to request from Netgalley too when I saw how easy it was! I’m glad I did find out later that I don’t have to read the book, as long as I let them know that I didn’t in the feedback. Whew! That helped me out a lot! 🙂

    And enjoy your interim period between college and work, because it can be a grind going to work every day, and that free time is wonderful!

  15. I’m SO shy and blogging has pushed me out of my comfort zone. I needed that push lol

    I had my blog for months before I even told anyone – including my husband!

    I think we all go through the ARC overload thing at first 🙂 It’s so exciting and then you get overwhelmed.

    Karen @For What It’s Worth

  16. I am so proud of yourself of learning to be YOU and that through blogging, you’ve grown in your confidence and your voice Keionda! Starting to blog is definitely a scary thing, but it sounds like you’ve found your people <3 keep doing what you're doing, as long as you keep enjoying it!

  17. I don’t actually remember what it was like pre-blogging, because I’ve been doing it for 15 years now lol I haven’t always had a book blog, that’s a thing that happened a couple of years ago, but I’ve always had a website (even inactive) and always blogged somewhere (even if it was just livejournal). I like to think that I’m myself on the internet, I definitely feel more at home here. I am a huge introvert, and I like communicating through the written word!

    It’s always a great thing when you find your folk, and I think you’ve done just that! 🙂 I love the book blogging community, though I only know a small corner of it. Everyone has been lovely!

  18. rebelliouscupid

    Loving your post girl!!! It’s Guinevere one of the gemelitas, anyways I’ve been meaning to do a post this meaningful. You totally beat us to it!

  19. Oh Keionda, I’m right there with you as far as Netgalley goes; I’ve requested more books than I could ever possibly read ha! Still, I’m gradually working on that TBR list so that has to amount to something 😉

    I’m still fairly new to the book blogging community, but blogging as a whole has been amazing for me personally. I’ve learned so much about myself and I’m hardly ever bored – there’s always something to do on the blog 🙂

    • YES! You and I haven’t been blogging for that long but you’re right! There’s always something interesting to blog about which is why I love it so much and it’s always fun to meet new people! Netgalley I’m sure is just glaring at me. Teehee