Posted June 20, 2016 by Keionda Lei Lewis in Discussion / 17 Comments


I could totally go for some coffee, with like a butt load of whipped cream *dies*, along with a couple squirts of sweet caramel, hot fudge, and cherry juice drizzled over the top.

Anyone else licking their lips? Because I am. I totally am. 

But, I totally know there are some out there that don’t really prefer coffee, so please, take it upon yourslves now to repalce that delicious hot drink that made my mouth water and replace with it with some other delicious drink of you’re choosing.

Buutttttt anyway, back to the topic at hand:


Basically, like the title of this post says, I LURVE to get comments. But at the same time (and this may sound super weird) but every time I get one of your amaze-ball comments, I smile.  But I also get super, duper, MEGA anxious.

Do any of you guys ever get super anxious?

Ya’ll, I can not express to you enough about that goofy grin I get on my face when I get one of your lovely comments.

Like, I no lie to you, the biggest, moset wideset grin EVA crosses my face when you guys actually take the time to come to MY blog and talk backa to ME of all people. You guys are super freaking busy and the fact that you come and listen to the crap I have to  say… well it means a lot…


Omg I used to get so excited when I got a notifation saying that someone had
actually commented on my blog. I got all these stars, hearts, and glitter in my eyeballs only to find that…it was all a fake.

It was SPAM.


Then, I had a SAD. A BIG one.

This post is already going all over the place with my thoughts, so I thought I might as well ask this question as well. What do you guys do when/if someone comes to your page and is super totally mean to you? Do you respond back negatively and tell them if they don’t like what they see then they can hit the road Jack? Or do you just ignore it, delete it, or mark it as spam?

What IS the right thing to do?

This has never happened to me before and I hope it never happens to me, but since I’m going to be a totally awesome author one day, I’d better get used to the hate. I guess?

P.S. I just wanted to let you guys know that this post was originally supposed to be about me loving comments and cupakes and coffee and all that wonderful, fluffy stuff but I have a feeling I got REAL deep in the middle part and kind of lost my way… So, yeah…

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Now it’s your turn to tell me how much you LURVE to receive comments! Does it give you those FEELS or all you all straight-faced like a stone when you get the nice little dinging notification? Don’t be a lying little liar, tell me ALL.

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  1. I love comments too. That is my favorite part of blogging it talking to everyone about books in some way or another. Sometimes the topics go off books, but they are my book buddies and I enjoy talking with them, even if it isn’t about books all the time. I’ve never had anyone leave mean comments. I think it is up to you on how you want to handle it. It is your blog, so you can do what you want. Sheri at Delighted Reader had a post talking about just this thing. She had a reader post a mean comment to a guest author. She deleted it. Pretty much all the people who commented agreed with her. I left the link, so hopefully that will help.

    Melanie @ Hot Listens & Rabid Reads

  2. Sophia Rose

    Hey Keionda! Comments are a huge validation and make me smile, too. Oh, and I’m enjoying a hot cocoa and whipped topping since I’m not a coffee fan.
    But spam we toss in the spam filter and marked as such, deleted, etc. Mean comments depends- if it’s just a different opinion though sharply expressed it is acknowledged and okay, but if it’s mean- mean to a guest or to us personally then it is deleted gone. Mean is not welcome at our blog and you don’t have to put up with it, either. 🙂

  3. I of course love me some comments!! Spam does suck. Most of mine gets filtered out though thankfully. I actually haven’t had anyone be mean in comments yet. Hopefully never! And yes you made me want some coffee 🙂

  4. I avoid confrontations like the plague. Though if we’re talking about trolling the political sites on social media, I don’t hold back. I don’t respond to comments that would potentially open up a can of worms and I know that doesn’t make me look accommodating, but I don’t like drama. *shrugs*

  5. Lauren Becker

    I do love getting comments and I always try and visit the other blog back too when I have time. It’s a great way to meet people and make connections, and I like hearing what other people have to say. Spam comments can suck, but I don’t get TOO many at the moment. As for negative comments from people – I’ve gotten a few, but I just tend to ignore it. I’m not that big where people just come and hate on me, which is nice. haha


  6. I’ve actually never really had someone leave me a rude comment. (Well, I guess recently someone implied I stole her idea, but we talked it out on Twitter. And she admitted she wasn’t angry and wasn’t going to write about what I had, but thought I should have asked her if I could write about it anyway, just because she might have wanted to write about it. So that was all very confusing.) ANYWAY, though, I definitely haven’t had people tell me I was wrong or my opinion was wrong or whatever. I think it *mostly* happens when people write about “controversial” things, but I know some people also get mean comments just because someone doesn’t agree with their assessment of the book, which is incredibly ridiculous.

    I would probably just delete. Or, depending on my mood, I might leave it up so everyone can see how silly their behavior was, and the person who left the mean comment might have to deal with people choosing to unfollow them or whatever. I definitely wouldn’t reply or engage because they’ll probably just keep fighting with you.

  7. evaallbooksconsidered

    I typically delete spam comments — they just clutter up all the pretty and nice comments!!

  8. To me, comments mean more to me than page views or followers. I love getting comments and although I don’t have much time, I make sure I go through my bloglovin feed to comment (cause I think everyone loves comments) at least once or twice a week.
    I don’t like coffee… but I’ve never had or have heard of coffee the way you described it and damn, now I want some. Does it have a name? Where can I get it????

  9. I delete spam comments. Recently I got hit with almost 100 in one night. *sobs*

    I’ve never gotten mean comments but there was a YA review for a very popular book that I didn’t love (but was fair – not personal – and not even overly negative) that seemed to get everyone upset. Like dozens of girls left comments saying how nice the author was. Um ok – never said she wasn’t lol

    I just replied back to the first few saying that I was glad they enjoyed the series and then ignored the rest and they stopped.

    I’m pretty much open to whatever anyone has to say as long as it isn’t derogatory, mean, threatening etc. I don’t really care if people disagree with me. I figure that’s part of why I do this – to discuss books. As long as it doesn’t get out of hand I’m cool with whatever even if they vehemently disagree.

    Karen @For What It’s Worth

  10. Spam is SO annoying. I delete it. Only once did I get a mean comment – I’d misstated a character’s age in my review and someone wrote the most scathing comment about how my review was so sloppy and I clearly didn’t understand anything about the book. I was a brand new blogger and so embarrassed. Since it was an anonymous comment, I deleted it, but I did edit the review and note that I’d made a mistake. Then, come to think of it once on Twitter this random person criticized me for misspelling an author’s last name in my review. (It happens!) I responded to the tweet with a sincere apology and @’d the author (who was super nice about it) and then I think that made the critic feel petty because she totally backed off. I think it’s a mistake to stoop to a mean person’s level!

  11. I love comments so much. I check my site and phone an embarrassing amount of times per day to see if I have new ones! As for confrontations, the ONLY time someone outright disagreed with me was on a post where I wrote some very opinionated things. I felt a little awkward, but I commented back blithely, like nothing bothered me! Like Joy, I detest conflict and confrontation.

  12. Yaas haha, who doesn’t love comments?

    The beginning of this post made my stomach growl. Girlll you know how to captivate an audience 😛

    Spam certainly sucks (actually, I’m kind of scared of them LOL), and I mark it as spam AND delete. Because ew, ain’t nobody want spam in their blog post 😛